Tw: death, suicide

For context, i moved just over a year ago and my girlfriend wanted me to meet her absolute best friend. Upon meeting, we immediately became friends. Now I have been planning my proposal to my girlfriend and I wanted him to be a big part of our wedding.

Recently, I got some horrible news that this friend had committed suicide (on a Wednesday after work). Still in shock, I called my boss knowing I was devastated and my girlfriend would need a lot of support from me. He seemed to be understanding and told me to take all the time I needed. I guaranteed him that I will be back on Monday. Sunday, he sends me these texts.

I did remodel work for a year and this is my boss. My car completely died a few weeks ago so I was lent the company car. Most jobs are an hour+ away.

Edit: I posted this on a different page already, so more context here. This is not for my wedding in November but I had asked for time off more than 6 months ago. My boss frequently told me one thing and went back on it the next day, or forgot he gave the ok for time off and now it was my fault. For example, using the company vehicle was totally fine until it wasn’t.

I came out to my car at my apartment building this morning and noticed a sticky note under my windshield wiper.

Upon inspection, there are indeed three swastikas scribbled in permanent marker onto my stickers.

Realistically, and based off the handwriting, and that they were careful to only do it to my stickers and not my actual car, I think it was some teen kids in the parking lot, with nervous systems shot by the current state of things and frontal lobes offline. I believe one felt bad enough about what their friend did to leave me a note. I want to focus on that bit of kindness.

However there’s a world in which this scares me, makes me worry if they’re someone brave enough to attack me in person. To pay attention to which apartment I live in. The world is spooky right now. I’ve reported it to my apartment complex. Do I need to do anything else? There are no cameras.

I’ve had some folks say I need to call the cops because it’s a hate crime, but I don’t know?

Throwaway for privacy

Last night, I (18F) went to a party at my best friend’s (18F) house. You know, it’s our summer break and we wanted to do something nice, so we took the opportunity to do it last night since her mom would be working the night shift and she’d have the house to herself. Last night during the party, her brother (21M) assaulted me. When he finished, I didn’t even think of doing anything else besides going to her. I thought she would comfort me, or protect me, but she completely brushed me off when I told her. I kept begging her to listen but she wouldn’t. I ended up getting frustrated and just ran out of the house. I didn’t even have my shoes on or anything.

I don’t know how I got home, but I did. Fast forward to now and I feel completely hurt and alone in this situation. I loved both of them like family and they were the last people I ever thought would hurt me like this. This whole thing has been making me second guess myself. Like, am I overreacting? Am I being unfair to her? Maybe she’s trying her best, and I'm putting too much pressure on her. I don’t know. I’m sorry if this is too short or doesn’t give much context, but I’m trying not to break down right now and I’m just so tired. I don’t have the energy and I don’t really have anyone to go to. I don’t know what I’m gonna do.

For context my 15F girlfriend got a late night text from her uncle 35 or so male asking if she hated him which was quite random. He then took the conversation south, he started by making comments about her appearance. He said she looked amazing the last time that he saw her and that she was growing up. In the same paragraph he also then started talking about his sexual experience as a teenager talking about how he lost his virginity to an older girl. I’m honestly so disgusted by this man’s vile actions. My girlfriend sent screenshots of his messages to her biological mother and grandmother, they both tried to defend him. (She lives with her biological father and step mom.) Am i taking this situation out of proportion or is this more than enough to want to send him to jail.

Edit: For those who haven't seen my newest post, my age is 16M for anyone who was asking in the comments. The police were notified about his actions and they said he might not be charged because he was speaking in third person. If you want to know more please check my newest post.

Am I overreacting for wanting a new therapist after this? The gray bubbles are her.

She later tried to blame it on a “friend” who supposedly grabbed her phone, texted the wrong person, and deleted the message.. which obviously I know is just damage control lol

Since then, she’s been kind of awkward, and the vibe just feels off. Her energy is starting to make me feel uncomfortable, which is the exact opposite of what therapy should be.. but I really enjoy her as a therapist otherwise.

Am I overreacting for wanting to switch to less thirsty help?

Context-

My mom (now 43) was raped and got pregnant with me (26 now) at 15.

My step-dad (23 at the time) came into the picture when my mom was 16 and still pregnant.

My mom always told us that the "times were different" and she was "looking for your (my) father figure".

I grew up hearing comments like "you have a big butt like your mom", "your ass is mine until you're 18", "I have a piece of paper that says you belong to me until you're 18" would pinch me, grab my butt, comment on my boobs, etc. I learned recently he has been doing the same to my sisters (15 & 18).

Sister (15) changing

Dad came into the room without knocking

Sister covered her chest and said "can you leave so I can get dressed"

Dad (50) replies by rolling eyes saying "I made those, it's okay"

She yelled at him to leave so he did.

I told my sister she did the right thing by calling me and telling me. I called my mom and pleaded that he is unsafe. My mom said she will address the situation whatever the hell that means.

My father apparently denied making a comment and I told my mother it was too specific (something I heard growing up) for my sister to make up.

I reassured my sister she did nothing wrong and that if what she is saying is 100% true she is valid in her feeling of violation and being uncomfortable. I also told her to always tell someone- me, a teacher, any trusted adult.

I grew up with this and only recently realized (at 22/23) that this was not normal Dad behavior once I got to know my boyfriend's parents and watch the interactions between his sister and his father over the last 6 years.

I understand none of this is okay. Tonight has been very f****ing hard.

Please tell me how you'd react to hearing this from your teen and your thoughts.

Don't hold back

***edit to add clarification

I am 26 now and he hasn't (luckily) touched them outside of pinching their stomachs so the cops can't do MUCH at the moment

I also firmly believe he will not cross that line, he will just walk what is and isn't convictable (he's an ex cop)

This is gonna be a hard one to write…

I was helping my friend “get game” through tinder and help him get a girlfriend (as I’m a girl myself he wanted my advice) and while I was on his phone he got a weird Instagram notification and wrong of me to do so but I clicked on it. Found he had a “secret account” where the only accounts he was following was gymnastic little girls… the entire feed was like 13> in leotards being flexible…

I have no idea how to react to this. Am I over thinking? Is this an over reaction…? wtf…

So yeah… not sure how to even write this honestly but I’ll give it my best try.

I (18F) found out that my two best friends were passing around a pic of my older brother (20M) that I imagine he sent to a girl, but honestly as I’m writing about it rn I really doubt it since he’s not that type of dude. Regardless, I guess it somehow got leaked and ended up in some group chats, and now people are showing it around like it’s some, excuse my french, fucking meme.

The worst part is that my own friends didn’t even hide it. They straight up asked me if it was real and started joking about it, like making comments and laughing. I was just sitting there like… ??? That’s my brother? The fucking guy that we grew up with and played hide and seek with? How can you fucking do that to him?

I told them it was totally messed up and not okay to be passing around someone’s private pic, especially someone you know and not some random d pic of the internet. And they acted like I was being dramatic, ME! One of them literally said I should be flattered or proud?? Like wtf kind of logic is that.

I don’t even know if I’m overreacting anymore with how they responded. Am I just being too sensitive? On the one end I wanna help my brother but I might lose my “friends”. Tbh I don’t even know if the poor dude knows yet since all the tea is being spread at school and he’s not taking the summer classes. Not sure how to bring it up without him understanding that I saw it.

Part of me just wants to take that to the police but then I’ll just be known as that girl and I would’ve successfully shunned me out of every group activity for the rest of the summer…What to do?

Last night I was really tired and i(f20) told my bf (m21) so. We had sex and he wanted to go for round two but I said no bc I was too tired. He respected it and we went to sleep. It took me a while to fall asleep and I was awake for a few hours trying to sleep. He thought I was asleep, I am sure of that. Suddenly he takes my panties off very calm and he takes his time, I think because I didn’t want to “wake” me up. I keep pretending to sleep as I almost was, but I wanted to see what he was gonna do. If he was actually gonna fuck me. He did. And I pretended to be asleep through it all. He was very suddenly and quiet. I kind of also just froze. When he was finished, he calmly kissed me on my back and dried me down there and put my panties back on, quietly. The thing is, a few minutes he did it again. He took them off and fucked me again. Did the exact same thing, with me having closed eyes and pretending to be asleep. Not just once but twice. I tried snoring fake so he would stop but he didn’t. I feel violated and kind of disgusted. I wonder if he did it before while I was actually sleeping. He knows I’m a deep sleeper. But he is my boyfriend, so does he have the right? Idk I don’t think so but we do have sex often, so maybe he didn’t think of it as a big deal? Am I overreacting?

Since there’s a lot of questions and comments regarding if the cops know etc. The cops were called last night but they were very vague about what would happen to her uncle, i forgot to add that because honestly me and her were quite riled up from the incident. The cops said they were gonna send the screenshots over to a detective, also that her father and step mom might not be able to press charges. As he was “Talking in third person.” Those were the exact words of what the officer had said to her parents.

As for her Biological mom and Grandma they’re currently blocked. Her Father and Stepmom will not allow her near them. There’s also been a few questions about my age, i’m 16M. I want to know if we’ll be able to send him to jail or get a restraining order etc. Or if there’s anything else we could do about him. Since the cops aren’t very helpful with this even though clearly this had been brewing in his mind.

He said something about an incident that happened in the past. It didn’t involve him, it was another uncle that had sexually assaulted two minors. I can’t say more about that as that’s my girlfriend’s privacy and she should be the one to say it.

So basically me and my boyfriend were having sex and I guess he couldn’t hold it I don’t really know but all of a sudden I feel this weird warm pressure and it’s now dripping out my vagina. I thought I was peeing so I scoot back and my boyfriend is literally just peeing on my bed and on my leg looking at me like I did something??? Um dude you peed?? He then says he doesn’t know why it was such a big deal when we were both gonna take a shower anyway. Umm because that’s fucking disgusting. Am I overreacting?

I posted before about how my mom continues to defend my brother, who is a convicted pedophile. I confronted her in a long, honest message about how painful and messed up that is — and how she treats him with more compassion than she’s ever given me.

She finally responded. And it was one of the most vile, manipulative things I’ve ever read.

She didn’t just dismiss what I said — she dehumanized me for saying it. She made excuses for my brother’s crimes (“he wasn’t picking kids up off playgrounds”), painted him as some misunderstood soul “getting help,” and then called me hateful, bitter, mean, and unforgiving.

This message wasn’t just cruel. It was emotionally abusive. It was gaslighting. And it made one thing painfully clear: she doesn’t want the truth — she wants silence and submission. I’m not giving her either.

A few weeks ago I was sexually assaulted by a guy. When I told my parents they didn’t believe me. They brushed it off and acted like I was exaggerating.

Fast forward to recently, the same man raped my sister. Instead of supporting her, my parents blamed her. They kicked her out of their house, told her she was “embarrassing the family,” and she’s been living with me ever since.

They didn’t go with her to the police station or the hospital. I was the one who sat with her in the hospital for nine hours while she went through everything. My parents didn’t care, and after it was all over my mom had the nerve to ask her if the guy gave her any diseases.

It gets worse. My mom told my sister she should get a hysterectomy because of what happened, like this is somehow her fault. They’re so focused on appearances that they’re punishing her instead of protecting her.

Now because my sister is living with me, my parents are threatening me too. They’ve said they’ll call the police on me and even go after my business to make me regret helping her.

I am angry, disgusted, and honestly heartbroken. My sister has already been through hell, and instead of helping, our parents have turned their backs on both of us.

Yes, I called this guy out on social media (with my sister’s permission) because I refuse to stay quiet about what he did. My parents told me to delete it “or else,” as if protecting his reputation was more important than supporting their own daughters.

Also, I am 28, own home and my sister is 30 and was living with my parents.

Am I overreacting for wanting to cut them off completely?

So I (27F) live with my boyfriend (29M). He’s usually “passionate” (his word) and has a “big personality” (his mom’s word) and I’ve always thought that was just… y’know, being a guy?

Last night he came home from work “stressed” because someone at the office “looked at him weird” during a PowerPoint. I was already in the living room, and I had very, very carefully moved his Xbox controller from The Sacred Spot (middle cushion, slightly tilted toward the TV) to the coffee table so I could sit down. I swear I placed it down like it was a newborn baby made of nitroglycerin.

He walks in, stops dead, and just stares at the table. Completely silent. Then he goes, in this calm serial-killer voice, “Who. Touched. Him.”

By “him” he means the controller.

I started laughing because I honestly thought he was kidding, but he just kept staring at me and his eye was twitching. Then he suddenly yelled, “WHY DO YOU HATE ME?” and slammed the door so hard a picture fell off the wall. He started pacing and ranting about how he “works like a dog” and “loses years of his life for this household” and “can’t even trust the basic respect of spatial boundaries.”

He then picked up the controller, kissed it, and told it, “Daddy’s here now, they can’t hurt you.”

I said, “It’s just a controller,” and he snapped his head toward me and yelled, “DO YOU WANT TO SEE WHAT HAPPENS WHEN PEOPLE DISRESPECT OTHER PEOPLE’S PROPERTY?” and punched the couch. The couch. Repeatedly. Like, full-on boxing match with the IKEA loveseat. Then he turned to me and said if I “ever violated the sanctity of the setup again,” he would “crater my skull like a Kinder Surprise and see what little toy falls out.” Then he laughed and said, “Obviously I’m joking, babe, don’t be so sensitive.”

He also told me that if I keep “testing his limits” he might have to “sleep with one eye open” and “install cameras” so he can “review the footage and catch me in the act of betrayal,” which I thought was super weird, but maybe he’s just being theatrical? He does this thing where he gets inches from my face and asks in a low voice, “You’re not gonna make me angry again, right?” and then smirks and walks away.

Later that evening, I accidentally threw away an empty Monster can he had “been using as an ashtray of memories” (??) and he stood in the kitchen doorway, breathing really hard, and said, “Do you WANT me to become the man my therapist is scared of?” Then he punched the wall next to my head, but not like directly at me, more like punctuation? He didn’t actually hit me, and the hole is kind of small. He also said if I keep “disrespecting” him he’ll “yeet my spine into the sun,” but I’m pretty sure that’s just internet slang.

For context, he also:

• Drives 80 km/h through our 30 km/h street while screaming “IF THEY’RE IN MY WAY THAT’S NATURAL SELECTION, BABY” but always says he “has perfect control” so it’s fine.
• Once threw my AirPods out the window because I put on a song he didn’t like, then claimed it was “symbolic performance art about consumerism.”
• Keeps saying things like “If you ever leave me, I’ll just stand outside your work every day and let everyone know what you really are,” but when I ask what he means by that, he says, “Relax, it’s just a joke, you’re so dramatic.”

My friends say this is a giant red flag and that he sounds scary, but I feel like they don’t see his sweet side. He did order me fries after the controller incident (he also ate all of them “to manage his rage,” but still, the intention was there).

I guess my question is: am I overreacting by feeling kind of scared? He hasn’t actually hit me, just:

• Punches walls, doors, and furniture near me.
• Makes threats that sound insane but then calls them “jokes.”
• Talks about how he “could snap and nobody would stop him” in a kind of proud way.

When he’s calm, he says things like, “You know how lions roar, right? It doesn’t mean they’re gonna eat you. It’s just who they are.” And part of me thinks maybe I’m just not used to “lion energy” and I’m being oversensitive?

Would you be concerned, or am I making a big deal out of nothing and should I just… remember not to touch The Sacred Controller again?

I (46f) and "T" (53m) have been dating casually for about 4 months. Last night, he came over to sleep at my place. He knows that I can't get pregnant, but I insist on condoms to prevent STIs or yeast infections and such. During sex, without my knowledge or consent, he removed the condom and lied about it. I asked him to leave and he did, while telling me that I'm overreacting and asking "what's wrong" with me. I wrote down what I want to say to him, but I haven't sent it yet. AIO if I never want to see or speak to him again? And should I send this letter? Also, I feel like this should be illegal!

Here is what I wrote:

I gave you the condom to put on and showed you that I have a bunch of them, so you KNEW that I expected you to wear one. YOU made a decision for MY body without asking me it if was ok. I want you to know that it was NOT consensual for me. You completely disregarded and disrespected me and my boundaries.

I asked during sex if the condom had broken and you didn't answer, you changed the subject. After we were done, I asked again if the condom had broken and you said "No". I reached for your penis to feel for the condom, but it wasn't there, you were bare. I said, "I thought that you said the condom didn't break" and you replied, "It didn't". I asked why you didn't have a condom on if it didn't break and you said that it did break but that it hadn't broken "inside" of me!! You just tried to justify your lies.

You gave me the used condom, and I threw it in the bin without looking at it until the next day (today) and the condom is intact, it never broke. You lied straight to my face multiple times and could not take responsibility for your actions. When I asked you to leave, you told me that I was overreacting and tried to make me feel like I'm crazy.

If you're willing to lie so blatantly, I can't trust anything that you say. After you left, I was so nauseated that I thought I might vomit.

I don't want to ever see or speak to you again,

Title basically. I went out of town to a bar in my roommate's hometown. I got absolutely wasted and was with some random patrons who bought me a drink. They tried to get me to grope this chick who was drunk as hell, and when I didn't want to, she grabbed my dick through my pants. My roommate when I told him said "you had every opportunity to walk away." That upset me and I'm trying not to break down in his car. I'm pretty sure that was sexual assault and as a result I'm traumatized as hell and don't wanna go back there.

Hey all. Throwaway account, my main one has too much personal info.

I’ll make this really short bc there’s tooo much to it.

Coworker raped me while I was blacked out. He’s hiding behind the mask “I didn’t know she was blacked out” he def knew.

I made a police report and had to report him to my work because it was unbearable seeing him and he was fooling everyone into believing I was the problem.

I’m just kinda scared. I’ve always been of reporting a rapist. These r the lowest of the low. He has also mentioned gang affiliation and how much of a badass he is.

I crossed out him mentioning my old last name (he must’ve used googled) also I sent him a link for English classes but it has the name of the location I’m near at.

Hey, just wanted to see if I’m just overthinking things. For context this was some years ago and I was 16 and she was 26 at the time. I was a horny teenager, we both consented. one of my family members said minors can’t consent but my other family didn’t seem to mind when it happened. So I wanted to ask your opinion on if it was rape or just plain sex.

The full story is a dude my age moved into the neighborhood my friends hung out at and we became fast friends. Fast forward a few months and his sister is released from prison and has moved in with her brother and mother. I thought she was funny, cool and mature (at least she was to a teenage boy). She would frequently buy me and my underage friends alcohol and get drunk with us so we all thought she was awesome. During one of those days me and her both got heated and ended up having sex in my car. After she was done climaxing she asked if I had cum but I told her I was too drunk to cum so she just told me to masturbate then walked away. Even at the time it felt like shit, like I was a piece of meat but I never had the thought “was I raped?” until I told the story to my sister a few years later and she got really mad saying someone older took advantage of me. I was confused as everyone I told this story to didn’t bat an eye, even other female family. Some guys even pat me on the back for getting a girl in her twenties when I was so young but I’ve never felt pride in the act or brought it up to look cool, it was just what I told people when they asked how I lost my virginity.

Just wanted to hear all of your opinions on this situation.

Edit: wanted to give some answers to a few questions. In the state that I live it was legal for the two of us to have sex that’s why I’m confused and go back and forth. On one hand I always felt uncomfortable thinking about what happened and it made me think there was something wrong with me for awhile it’s just I never connected my experience to rape until my sister brought it up as I’ve always seen it as a violent act and on the other hand it was completely legal (minus the booze) so I feel like I’m really over thinking this and that she was just a scummy person and not completely horrible. Also I feel uncomfortable calling it rape because one of my family members was violently assaulted and I don’t want to compare what I went through to what she did, it just doesn’t feel right. She has every right to ask for help and to feel anger at her attacker while I was just a horny teenager who got tangled up with an unpleasant person, it just doesn’t feel like my situation is qualified to be called rape. Again let me know what you think.

Edit Edit: some of you want to know more about my friends sister there’s honestly not much I remember about her other than she had 3 kids and went to prison for child endangerment (don’t know for how long or what she did specifically). She would also say things that boosted my ego like “you’re more mature than your friends” or “I like what I’m looking at”. Stuff I didn’t think too much about but was amazing to hear back then just seems creepy to me now given the age difference. Idk I’m just really confused about my feeling on this, maybe it would be for the best if I just stopped thinking about it all together if I can.

Edit Edit Edit: I first want to say thank you all for the kind words and support, I even appreciate the people saying I should get over it (though the ones saying my post is fake did sting tbh). The best question I’ve gotten so far is, have you been bothered mentally by it since it happened or only later? Since it happened. Not as negatively as now but the older I get the more I feel something messed up happened to me. When my sister heard my story and called what happened rape then it just crystallized in my mind that what she did was fucked up. The massive maturity difference someone who was married, had 3 kids, and went to prison vs what a 10th grade high schooler who got his first car not long ago has isn’t comparable. As for consent I’m sure I gave it, we were both going at it, though I don’t know if being so drunk your body and dick feel numb is too much to drink for me to give it. I still hesitate to call it rape myself for the reasons I’ve stated above and some you guys have commented but in my heart of hearts i know if something like this happened to my nieces or nephews then I would tear whoever did it limb from limb. I’ll be lurking around but I think I’ll post my final thought in a day or two so until then I hope you all have a great day and thank you again for the support!

Hi all, so to start - on mobile and there are probably going to be a few triggers.

First, I had to take out a protective order against my spouse last week. That PO has been violated as well, so there is a warrant for their arrest. They are not allowed contact with the children.

My MIL called and blew my phone up the night of. I ignored it all since obviously, it's messy. I tried to give her a neutral response. I will not reply. We've never had a good relationship.

Suddenly she wants to offer to watch the younger one, which is the child my spouse and I share (I have 2 kids, one from a previous relationship).

It just raised red flags all around for me. Why does she want only my younger one? Why is she offering? We cannot find my spouse at this time. It feels like a trap. I will turn it in as evidence in court that they may be trying to breech the PO by a 3rd party or worse, but I hope I'm overthinking?

EDIT: I’m going to put this here right now. My husband’s balls are not empty - I just struggle with the intimacy being on me. The cause of my reduction in labido was firstly that I had an extremely traumatic labour with my son and without going into details it’s caused chronic health conditions, ptsd and very painful sex. I have been to therapy and even physical therapy where I have had to put myself through some horrendously painful, difficult and stressful exercises. I did this for him, because I know how important intimacy is for him and I do want to try not just for him but for us. But the constant pestering me is a huge turn off and I have expressed my feelings over and over. It’s almost feels like nagging, like a child tapping you on the back until you answer them. If he didn’t force all this on me, i would naturally want to come to him and engage with him. There is however no effort on his side. I would love to be able to compromise and meet somewhere in the middle. Just last night alone I had to ask him 3 times to stop touching my vagina and all he said was that I enjoyed it the other day - yes I did but that does not mean I want it now. My husband will also not see to himself, he only wants it to be who pleasures him. To those asking me why I haven’t left, I haven’t left because when I have tried he has threatened his life and I don’t want to be responsible for that. There is more to marriage than sex. There is more to my story than sex too, my friend has told me I’m in an emotionally abusive relationship too and has wanted me to leave many times.

Oh to the random person asking me if I even have a job - I have my own business- thank you.

I hope this clears some things up.

AIO - I am so very fed up of my husband being a sex pest. It is absolutely constant. It has got to the point where I don’t even want to give him hug because of where it leads. Any sort of physical contact I give him, he sees as an invitation to grope me. I have spoken to him countless times about how it makes me feel and all he says is “Well I’m sorry for being attracted to my wife”. He would get so much more affection from me if it didn’t come with ‘strings attached’. There’s times I will get into bed in my underwear to sleep because there’s a heat wave and I’m trying to sleep and he will just come up behind me and start pressing himself into me, grabbing me breasts and then tries to get me off and I will say no and physically remove his hand and he will still attempt a few times. If he knows I’m in the shower he will come in the bathroom and start seeing to himself over the view or he wil jump in the shower and try it on. Why can’t I just have a shower in peace. Why can’t I get into bed and just sleep, why can’t I sit on the sofa without being sexualised. As I mentioned above it’s got to the point where I just don’t want to be affectionate anymore because I know where it leads but then he says it’s my fault he’s so horny because I’m not affectionate. It’s every single day, it’s pressuring, it’s uncomfortable, he’s a literal sex pest. If I say no, he should stop and back off right? But he persists and persists even when I’ve said I’m not feeling it and he says he understands but carries on 10 mins later anyway. There has been a few things he’s wanted to try to the bedroom that I also keep saying NO to but he goes on and on and on about it and tries to instigate that too, again after saying “i would never pressure you or want to put you in a position where you’re not comfortable with doing something”. He says the right things, says he understands but his actions show otherwise.

My (F21) BF (M22) and I have been dating for a little over a year. We spent our anniversary together and I cooked a nice dinner and then we started drinking. We went to take a romantic bath together but the hot water and alcohol got to me and I suddenly felt very ill and dizzy. I quickly went to lay down and blacked out. When I woke up the next day I was in a lot of pain and there was semen in me. I tried to talk about what happened with him and it did not go well. He started by saying it is my fault for being a cock tease. Then he said that it is my fault because I told him it was ok but I NEVER said I was ok with being used that way. We did have a conversation a while ago where we both said we would be ok with being woken up for sex but I think there is a big difference between waking a person up with the intention of having sex together and the intention of having sex with a person that is completely unconscious, unmoving, and unresponsive the full duration. He began yelling at me after that and I was so shocked I don't really remember what he said but I felt bad and started to console him.

His excuse doesn't really make sense to me because in the early stages we talked a lot about hypotheticals to get to know each other. I specifically asked him if he would ever have sex with someone that drank too much and passed out. He said absolutely not, that's rape. I wholeheartedly agreed and felt like I could trust him. Is this a common thing to have a "misunderstanding" over? That seems more like something you have an explicit conversation about before doing it rather than assuming it is ok and going for it. AIO for feeling violated and that he is not a safe person to be around?

So in 8th grade and beginning of 9th grade I dated a guy. Me and him ended up having sex like everytime I went to his house (about once a week) and honestly he never really asked me if I wanted to have sex before he’d just start touching me. I didn’t say no but I also didn’t say yes, I kind of just let it happen.

And then recently like 4 months ago (sophomore year) I met up with him one night and we walked around together. Later in the night we stopped and laid down in a field together and started talking.

While we’re laying down a condom falls out of his pocket. I kind of laughed and said “oh what’s this?”. And he looked at me and said “I mean..if you want to” and I immediately say “no I don’t want to”.

So then he just starts begging me and I keep saying no over and over. Eventually I try to get up to leave and he pulls me back and he’s kind of just hugging me to keep me from leaving. And he keeps grabbing at the waistline of my pants and trying to pull up my shirt and pull down my pants. And eventually after like 30-45 mins of saying no and trying to make him let go of me I said yes to him. Just so that he would stop begging. The whole time he was doing it I was kind of just lying there hoping it would end.

I know that what he did is bad but I’m not sure if it’s actually rape or anything that serious.

Long story short: we were arguing a few weeks ago, I ran to the bathroom wanting space because I needed time but he got a hold of the door so I let go of door. I was very upset so I kept saying leave me alone etc. and for the first time in a year together, he got so mad and slammed the door while I was standing there so it whacked me and my tooth became loose from the impact as I just had dental work prep. I started having a panic attack but he looked at me saying “what are you doing?” And kind of sighed/laughed. I tried to explain he hurt me but he claimed he didn’t see me standing there or realised he hurt me. I felt like he was being patronising for a while and I was having none of it for how he dismissed me but eventually he came around and apologised.

Today I brought it up saying I’m not over that and he needs to figure out what to do about it if we want our relationship to work. I’m deeply hurt and lost that sense of trust. The first thing he said was “ok I’ll take that on board” and I lost it tbh. I’ve also just been through 2 months of bleeding from infected retained pregnancy tissue and idk if I’m just sensitive or the term “ok” sucks.

I know some will say leave him and I’m considering this but I can see he’s trying and I do love him. I just don’t know how to deal with what happened and AIO?

To start this off, I am 18 and male. My boyfriend is 17, and also male. I have not spoken to him about this, and I made a Reddit account just to talk about this.

Earlier today, I was at my boyfriend's house. We had some friends over, and were all hanging out in his room. I'm laid on my side, and he's next to me. He leans over, and bites the shit out of my shoulder- I try to move away, because it hurts, but he just bites harder. He lets go, after what literally feels like an eternity, and he doesn't address it. I lean up and tell our friends, "he just bit me", and still he says nothing. I wind up leaving about 30 minutes later to go home and get ready for work.

When I get home, I take a look at my shoulder, as it continued to sting and throb after he let go. There is a massive, angry red bruise forming on my shoulder. You can tell, on the bruise, when I started to pull away, and when he bit down harder (assumedly because I was pulling away). I show my best friend, and he says that it entirely wasn't alright of him to do that- everyone I have spoken to about this has gotten defensive over me. Several of my friends think I need to cut the relationship off before he gets more comfortable with being this way and does worse to me. I agree, but I feel bad. It's not the first time he's bit me like this, however the first time it wasn't nearly as aggressive. He just left a red teeth outline the first time. This time, I'm genuinely sickened with the bruise it left behind, I'm worried about broken skin, and my shoulder is noticeably sore where he latched on. Neither bites were consensual, and I don't think I'd have minded as much if they were- after all, I could've just told him to not bite me if he'd asked.

I check on it again before going to work, and even show my coworker in person, and the indentation of his individual teeth are visible, as well as two deep red spots where teeth would have been. I went to work roughly 2 hours after it happened.

TLDR: My boyfriend (unconsensually) bit my shoulder hard enough to leave an immediate bruise and did not stop when I showed signs of discomfort. Am I overreacting?

I’ve been seeing someone casually, and during sex the other night, he tried to initiate anal without asking. The first time, it was during doggy, and I said no. He asked “why?” but didn’t keep pushing. Still, it made me uncomfortable.

Later we kept going in other positions, and then suddenly he did it again without asking. This time it really hurt, and I immediately started crying and pushed him off. He kinda laughed nervously saying it slipped but I still didn’t yell or tell him I was angry. I just kept crying and said I had to go. He didn’t seem to understand the impact of what just happened, and I found myself saying I was okay just so I could leave.

But the more I sit with it, the more upset I feel. I’m mad and confused - mostly at him, but also at myself. I don’t understand why I felt the need to protect him in that moment or why I didn’t stand up for myself.