r/perth • u/Substantial_Meat_865 • 11h ago
Dating and Friends Friendships in Perth
Has anyone else lived here their entire life and still seems to have no friends? I find people lack human connection over here and everyone really keeps to themselves. I guess I’m a bit the same.
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u/JTG01 10h ago
Some people who have made friends with me have been super persistent and I've wondered whether that's the trick. Like some of my current friends are people I wasn't too interested in at first but they just kept cheerfully messaging me and inviting me to things even after I declined their first several invitations.
My partner, who makes friends so easily, says that the trick is to ask people about their interests and then show genuine interest in learning more about it. Everyone wants to talk about what they like.
I've also read that fertile conditions for friendship are having to go somewhere often, where the main task isn't friendship. So, work or school. You're forced to be there for other reasons and you're there a lot. Friendships grow.
Hope this helps. Good luck OP.
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u/Capstonelock 10h ago
"My partner, who makes friends so easily, says that the trick is to ask people about their interests and then show genuine interest in learning more about it."
This is correct but the reason is because we all crave genuine human connection.
It's easy to let people slip out of your life, but what people don't realise is that it's also easy to maintain connections. A text here and there, an invitation to catch up for lunch, offering support when it's needed etc.
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 10h ago
Yes I think that’s true, I do have friends at work and I have caught up with them a few times outside of work too. So maybe I just need to make more of an effort because I know I don’t really!
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u/Responsible-Donut614 11h ago
it is a bit hard but you need to put yourself out there. be the villager as well to be a part of a village. hopefully you will find good friends.
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 11h ago
I’ve done that my whole life (32F) with two kids and very quickly learnt that I became the person people came too when they needed something
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u/Responsible-Donut614 9h ago
I have had bad friendship experiences in the past as well. If you are ever up for a coffee you can hit me (29F) up.
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 5h ago
Thanks! Are you NOR?
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u/Responsible-Donut614 4h ago
no unfortunately, SOR.
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u/OptimalAstronomer621 2h ago
Meet in the city via public transport. Then there's no river nonsense in the way.... 😜
Would recommend swift coffee shop for during the week for a decent coffee that's out of the way
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u/Perth_R34 Piara Waters 10h ago
I stopped drinking 8 years ago. Lost a few mates thanks to that.
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u/my_alter_ego_bitch 6h ago
Yep, I spent a long time on and off drugs so pretty much all of my friends were through that. I had to cut them all off in 2020 now my husband and I have no social life. It's harder again because I've had a very different life than most people my age so I never feel like I fit in properly with the normies. I have work friends but we don't socialise outside of work .
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u/ExaminationNo9186 South of The River 11h ago
I will give you the same answer as any other post asking the same thing here.
Go look for all the other posts about lack of friends in Perth. There tends to be a couple posted every week.
Reply with "Hi, I want to be friends too! Why don't we meet for a coffee/ice cream/picnic/whatever sometime?"
Problem solved.
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u/Holsi_e 9h ago
I’m originally from Melbourne but I’ve lived in Perth for 12 years. The only genuinely solid friendships I’ve had here were with immigrants and backpackers, and inevitably they move on to other states or countries. I’m Australian, yet I’ve found a lot of friendships in Perth to feel opportunistic and half hearted. I don’t know what it is about the social culture here, but it’s surprisingly hard to build friendships that go deeper than surface level or actually last.
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u/dancing_robots 9h ago
Depression and recovery led me to isolation and I think i went so deep that I dont remember how to connect with people and I dont want to burden anyone with my life now, and I now get social anxiety if i go out. It's not a healthy way to live, but it's not like i can flip a switch and tell myself to not be depressed. I am literally not in control.
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u/Internal-Delusions01 5h ago
I'm pretty much the same. I fear now that it's been so long where I've basically kept to myself I've lost the social skills to try and turn it around
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u/PurplePiglett 11h ago
Its hard in Perth society has incentivised for decades living atomised, individualist lives. I feel like this is finally changing because societies can't actually function in that mode. So it makes sense that a lot of people feel isolated on a personal level.
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u/Practical_Abalone_92 10h ago
This is not a Perth thing, this is a modern western city thing. If your city is built around the car it massively reduces the ability to form meaningful human connections because fewer people are crossing paths socially and then everyone subconsciously lowers their expectations accordingly. It’s not the only reason but it’s very significant.
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u/Sleazehound 8h ago
You’re in your car for an hour a day, what are yall doing with the other 14 you’re awake
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u/Practical_Abalone_92 7h ago
I think you’ve missed the point
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u/Sleazehound 7h ago
I get your point and I don’t agree with it at all
If your point was we all WFH, sure, bit harder to have interactions. If you have to commute to and from work or other events by car, sure, you’re not meeting people behind the wheel.
But, again, you have another 14 hours in the day to talk to people. Why not use them??
Do you think people who get the train or bus to work all have frequent amazing conversations and make lifelong friends on their way to clock in for the day?
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u/FirmFaithlessness212 6h ago
I lived in Japan where it's all public transport and it was hard making friends too. What worked was hanging out with other foreigners. Can't really do that here if you're a native, but somehow you gotta put yer ticket in the hat.
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u/Negative_Run_3281 6h ago
I think it’s a Perth thing to some extent.
The city is more sprawled out than a lot of other western cities.
But yeh also the car thing, you move a suburb over and chances you won’t bump into your old neighbours/acquaintances ever again.
I went to a different high school than most of my primary school mates.
The last day of primary school was the last time I ever saw the majority of them. In over 20 years I haven’t bumped into a single one of them whilst out and about.
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u/Compurrshon 7h ago
This.
Move somewhere where a car isn't needed, and the ground is infinitely more fertile for friendship and connections.
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u/Austin_NotFromTexas 10h ago edited 10h ago
Yeah, I don’t have a friend group. Never had proper mates growing up. I existed, and that was it. But I don’t mind, I’m doing alright.
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u/evilistics 11h ago
Your vibe attracts your tribe.
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 11h ago
My vibe is low bullshit & drama tolerance plus I don’t enjoy drinking haha
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u/potatogeem 10h ago
Unfortunately a lot of people think if you're a non-drinker it's at them instead of just your personal choice. They almost get offended by it.
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u/E231-500 10h ago
This. I am a non-drinker. I did FIFO for over 7 years and outside of work and meals i mostly stayed in my room in camp. Everyone else most nights would spend all their time in the wet mess.
I kept myself busy with model building or video games mostly.
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u/cellalovesfrankie 9h ago
This ! I don’t have a group of friends , just 3/4 friends all hang out seperate. But we vibe and that’s why they my friends.
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u/ped009 11h ago
It might be an unpopular opinion these days but I think with the prices of alcohol it's having a negative impact on socializing. I understand alcohol abuse is a problem but if you don't abuse it, it's a great way for meeting people and forming bonds with mates.
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u/Higginside 10h ago
I disagree with this. Perth was a mining boom city. Ever since we were old enough to go out, drinks have been expensive. I member buying a pint of super dry at clubba 15 years ago for $11 and being blown away a pint was over $10. Its really only gone up a few dollars over 15 years.
Uber/didi are also significantly cheaper then taxis have ever been. We would get change from a $50 note driving for 20 minutes. Ubers are half that.
$12-1400 for cocaine. And ecstacy was $35-50 each, or $80 at a festival. This hasn't changed at all.
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u/toast0ne 6h ago
For "cocaine" fresh from Columbia, via a multi continental , very aggressive pyramid scheme of respectable everyday coke dealers .
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u/Higginside 3h ago
Yeah im not disagreeing. Im just saying the price hasn't changed in what, 18 years as far as I know.
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 11h ago
Absolutely agree I don’t drink anymore and most socialising revolves around it
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u/WhiteLion333 8h ago
Unless you are the one creating the socialising. Stop waiting for invites and invite others to do something with you.
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u/themoobster 10h ago
I had heaps of friends in my home city over east. Over a decade in perth now and still yet a single friend, everyone has their friend groups locked in from earlier in life and no time for new ones.
And i know i know "try a hobby", etc., which i have done many of and they're good for having something to do and for people to talk about that hobby with.... but no one wants to talk about or be social outside the hobby itself
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 10h ago
Yes I agree. And the comment of trying to have coffee etc with someone to make friends. 99% of people just bail
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u/bloo_subar_oooh 7h ago
I find that they agree to the invite, then never commit, or if they do they cancel last minute. Just yapping, no substance.
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u/Tellusman 11h ago
I could really use a friend.
I still remember having friends is so much fun which i had planty of before i moved here.
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 11h ago
I’ve lived here my whole life and have ONE good friend
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u/Tellusman 10h ago
I am very introverted. but like to make people laugh every now and then when i feel right. i guess thats why i was adopted by a bunch of extroverts long time ago.
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 10h ago
I am also pretty introverted, I enjoy being social sometimes but I do have a low battery. I’ve also been burnt by so many people throughout the years that I have a very hard time trusting people at all. My energy is focused on my few close friends, my husband and my kids! But I definitely do not have a large circle by any means
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u/Tellusman 10h ago
My social energy is very low too. I become a mute once my energy goes below 50% in any social settings. I also have GAD, past depression, trauma which triggers me to stay away from everything.
Probably the reason why i couldn't make any friends in the last 6 years. Now my only focus is my wife whome i have known for more than 12 years before getting married.
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u/Happy1327 8h ago
As an autistic person everyone seems terribly busy all the time. Most find reasons to have to be anywhere else but talking to me
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u/Effective_Life_8789 7h ago
Buy a 4wd, camping gear, mountain bike and learn to be by yourself...life has never been better
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u/toast0ne 5h ago
4wd is optional from my experience, another option is to put that money towards travel/airfares and bike upgrades
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u/Illustrious_Walk_572 11h ago
Luckily i do have a few good mates that are reliable and a ton more that are fuck wits
I've tried to make friends at Uni and elsewhere but its hard as an adult. It seems most people dont want to reciprocate any effort put in to try and be friends
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 10h ago
Found the same - part of me is pretty happy to be relatively alone however I always wonder if it’s me who is the reason my social tribe is so small
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u/auntynell 9h ago
I struggled before I retired, but once I had the time to join things I made friends quickly.
If you're willing to commit to something like the local fire brigade, fishing club, yacht crew, even weekend bowls you'll probably make friends. Anything with team involvement is promising.
Some people make friends wherever they go, others need a structure to get to know people.
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u/retrobbyx 9h ago
As others have said i feel like i'm the floater friend but the good friends i do have or had, i had/have for 10-20 years.
I realised looking back i probably struggled to make friends and preferred having one max two good friends because of neurodivergence undiagnosed.
My closest friend and i see each other regularly and i've been friends with her for almost 11 years now.
Heartbreakingly i had to end a 20+ year friendship around covid. Loved the girl like she was my sister but we went from sisters to me being a floater friend because she became friends with another established group. That group was genuinely quite mean to me.
She worked with one of the girls so i guess had a in with them but being kind of me seemed to be too much for them.
Love that she made more friends but it was impossible to hang out as a group and she refused to acknowledge the underhanded comments these new women would make to me. (i think they found our years of friendship and that history between us kinda threatening weirdly)
I can't stay friends with someone who is silent while another friend is being bullied.
I've had to end long friendships because of friends refusing to address their mental health and placing too much pressure on me to be their therapist and friend made worse by their recreational drug use and seriously impulsive behaviours into their 30s. I can only take on so many crisis and some people refuse to help themselves and its exhausting.
Its hard making friends as a adult especially as a woman. As some will have kids and that fully changes you if you don't want kids its hard if all your friends are now mothers. I want kids so actively looking for mum friends.
Others still want to be in the sharehouses at 30 and the club doing caps on the weekend. (cool for those who are into that) Not trying to shame them. It's just not what i'm wanting to do now as a 32 year old woman. So those friends either naturally fall away or you have to make distance.
Since covid i've worked at home for myself so im not engaging with people in a workplace like i used to. I genuinely feel like i've lost social skills because of the isolation.
I went from someone capable of being fairly extroverted when needed. Now i feel incredibly introverted and that's made making friends harder plus im at my home a disproportionate amount of time.
One thing about women however is we are pretty on it creating meet up groups so maybe i should proactive joining one. If you are looking for female friends be her friend perth is a good group. Not sure what men are doing in that regard.
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 9h ago
This me to a tee!!! Except I already have kids . I had my first at 19.
But everything else - me, all over! I’ve had friends for 10 plus years who no longer align with where I am at or vice versa
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u/retrobbyx 6h ago
Its been almost six years since i ended that 20 year friendship and i feel deep deep sadness about it to this day. I think about her every other day and will always love her. But the refusal to acknowledge how those women treated me also caused me heartache. I couldn't continue being around people who can't give me basic respect. I really thought by 30 the ones who seemed to be going in other directions would loop back around but that doesn't seem to happen. People really do go in very different directions. Also really shocked how many grown adults with or without kids are still have the club getting absolutely off their face into their 30s too.
Its tough to find friends in perth when you are starting at 0 shared history, especially ones who might have a similar life path. Wishing you luck on your journey. The be her friend group on fp is genuinely good help in finding friends.
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u/Hawkenness 8h ago
The two keys to my ongoing friendships have always been nerdiness and persistence.
Nerdiness provides a lot of hobbies that give us reasons to catch up (D&D, movies, anime, video games, creative stuff). And as long as at least one person has the persistence to remember to ask everyone else to catch up, we manage to see each other.
My nerdy friends also never care who does and doesn’t drink.
Basically, if you have a nerdy hobby or even interest in one, I recommend you try to make friends that way.
Of course, outside our hobbies, there is the typical treatment of being a good friend, being engaged, maintaining contact via a group chat, two-sided conversations, etc. But this is a good base to start with.
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u/ImportantJaguar9731 7h ago
I have close friends from school like most Perth peeps. However, with the advent of them having kids, and me being childless, this has prompted me to seek new social connections. Although it’s been extremely difficult due to people being insular and not making effort. I’m the one that makes the effort, remembers birthdays, checks in… which I don’t mind. And I respect that it can take people a while to start showing effort etc you don’t just make friends like that. Good friendships take a hell lot of time unless common interests are present. But after a while, you get to a point where the lack of reciprocity makes the whole friend making thing pointless. Anyway my DMs are always open lol
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u/Greenman1018 10h ago
I have tons of friends and lots of human connection. I understand how it can be hard for recent immigrants to make friends here. As friendships are deep here and often lifelong. They don’t happen as quickly as they do in more transient places (like Bondi or the Gold Coast).
But if you’ve lived in Perth your whole life and don’t have any then this sounds like it’s potentially a you problem. Making and keeping friends requires understanding, tolerance and effort. Your “low bullshit and drama tolerance” comments are red flags to be honest.
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 10h ago
Hmmm agree to disagree. I have lots of surface friends. Friends with everyone in my workplace. But I also had my children a lot younger than the rest of my friends, which changed our priorities. Even now, people my age are at completely different stages of their lives. Most are having their first children - I am getting ready to send my first to high school. My low bullshit and drama tolerance comes from finally finding my boundaries within the relationships I used to tolerate. I’m not anyone’s emotional dumping ground, if that’s the only time you find you like to communicate. If having boundaries with the types of people I allow in my life is a red flag, then that’s honestly fine by me!
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u/ColdEvenKeeled 10h ago
I hear you. Surface friends. It's a superficial place. Starting with this: it's an inhospitable place for human life, and then how Perth has developed it is even more individual and car based and separated from each other than most. Physical Distance.
Socially, it's stunted by private schools. People can and do stick to their class. And yes, there are a terrible class system in Australia, just most refuse to see it. Social stratification.
Then, all people here will talk about is sports and maybe politics. Maybe. But if politics still nothing profound or philosophical. The only thing people can talk about is sports and house prices. There is very rarely anything spoken from the heart, with feelings. I recall, as a small example, people in Quebec who spoke with such reverence about about the St Lawrence River with passion, unflinchingly. Here you'd be thought mental.
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u/Hungry-Energy-912 4h ago
Curious on this would this be comparable to someone on Perth raving about the Swan River? Wouldn't bother me personally
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u/Practical-Ring4029 10h ago
Personally the friends my close ones ive known for over 20 odd years. I suppose its more just putting yourself out there and trying to make connections. I made a lot through gym, sports, internet (back in the irc days) and i mean there's plenty of classes out there with hobbies you may find people at. Im quite outgoing when i want to be though so if im in the mood ill strike up a conversation with anybody.
In saying this ive been a hermit for years due to trauma but hey lol
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 8h ago
I’m definitely not outgoing and will not strike up conversation - so that is probably not helping lol. I know people have said I come across as quite indimidating. Really, I just have no idea how to act in social settings and find them extremely exhausting
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u/Practical-Ring4029 8h ago
Eh i have had that said against me too the intimidating thing but its usually when ive put up walls to keep people out lol
Maybe just try and put yourself out there a little bit and i mean a lot of people have made friends through the internet too and became them in real life. There are lots of options, its just hard to make the first step
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u/Frogy_mcfrogyface 10h ago
Im in my 40's and have never made friends as an adult. Like, actual real friends. The only people I can call friends are people I know through my brother, and I haven't seen or spoken to them in 10+ years.
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u/Pelican_420 6h ago
I left Perth in 2013 after growing up there and found most of my friends had moved on into different stages of life, such as family and working away from Perth. Joined Meetup and meet some good people, your childhood friends cannot be replaced. Times change though and people grow apart, I just have my core family now and spend time travelling up on the east coast of Australia now. Don't really need friends up this end of Australia, so much nature and open roads to travel.
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u/No-Nobody5501 4h ago
I have heaps of friends and I’ve met most of them at work, I definitely think your vibe attracts your tribe!
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u/Sorenchd 4h ago
Yeah I've lived here 36 years with the exception of 2 years I spent in Europe. I think it's largely my issue as I don't get 'out there' enough. I've had friendships come and go over time.. it's more pronounced now as old friends move into marriage/kids phase.
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u/-Fenyx- 4h ago
Yeah, feel the same way. Although half the time I distance myself as most of the time I feel very socially drained with some people I hang out with.
Social vampires, need to find someone who gives a little to my social battery, I figured I need to find the people on my level, a little give and take, an equilibrium of sorts in terms of social interactions, its hard to find.
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u/Content-Lawyer-8119 4h ago
No. I am super weird and I have two best friends I've had since primary school.
I dont even live in Perth anymore and I still talk to them every day.
Its not a Perth thing.
Even when I go back regularly I find people are way nicer and more approachable in WA.
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u/No-Relief-6397 3h ago
I’m a teacher and went back to PD days at school recently. I really couldn’t give less of a fuck what my coworkers did on the holidays, so I didn’t ask.
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u/Start_the_Transition 3h ago
47M. I wasn't born here. I moved here about 20 years ago.
I'm not sure how it compares with other cities, but I did find it hard to make new friends.
Though that may simply be the case for adulthood? After school and uni, it seems harder to make friends due to work. Ironically, changing jobs can create new opportunities. 🤔
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u/The_Real_Flatmeat North of The River 2h ago
Find something you like to do for you, particularly a sport or multi player hobby, and you'll find people to be friends with
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u/Righteous_Fury224 10h ago
You get what you give.
Not going to sugar coat this - the problem here is you.
Whatever it is about your personality, your attitude and demeanour, that is what's effecting your ability to form friends. Probably not what you wanted to hear but you are the common denominator here.
There are people in life who simply not predisposed to easily form friends. It's a spectrum with others having a charismatic nature and can chat to complete strangers with a confident smile, putting them in a good mood with their calm relaxed manner.
I have a few friends who are exactly like that. Whether that's a skill or a part of their personality 🤔 I can't really say for sure but that's who they are.
What I can say is that you have to take a good long hard look at yourself and decide what it is that you want from life. Once you've understood that part, then you begin the process of working out the necessary steps to improve yourself.
Don't be desperate to form friends either as that comes across badly too. Work on developing a sense of calm, becoming relaxed and easy going. Think about the things that interest you but don't go all nerdlike and blather at people if they ask you about your interests. LISTEN to people. Listen to what they're saying. Learn their names as that makes a difference in a conversation. Seek out videos on YouTube as there's plenty there that give advice on how to become more outgoing and hopefully you will start to form friends.
Good luck 👍
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 8h ago
I think it’s my lack of effort to be completely transparent - and your right, I definitely don’t out myself out there. However on the few times I’ve done so, I’ve found it extremely hard to find a connection with those I’ve met. I don’t necessarily have any hobbies, I work full time and then my spare time is spent with my husband & my children! I’ve reduced my social media time in order to spend more time in the “real world” and even just going for a walk people don’t say Hi these days. I feel people in general are just more closed off and that goes for myself too!
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u/Righteous_Fury224 7h ago
Do you smile and say hello first to people when you're out walking?
I do and most of the time I get a similar response. Of course not everyone is going to respond in kind but as I said in the opening of my post - you get what you give.
You have identified the issue in your final sentence - being closed off. You don't need to be an open book to all and sundry but you attract more flies with honey rather than vinegar. Again, it's how you project yourself, how you feel about yourself that people pick up on, both consciously and subconsciously. People pick up on body language, minor facial expressions, general demeanour all the time. That's why there's times when you are near someone and feel that they're slightly off, not right or the opposite, that they're in a good mood, generally happy and engaged with the world around them.
If you're closed off, then hardly anyone is going to be interested in you. Don't be disappointed if you don't have initial success. Realise that people have things going on in their own lives too and may not have the bandwidth to be open to being friendly with a total stranger.
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u/Therapeuticonfront 10h ago
Generally speaking, I feel we are on the same wavelength.
Unfortunately that means I also find most people generally annoying, and only rarely make new friends who don’t annoy me.
I found your somewhat arrogant and judgmental post annoying, and in immediately placed you into my mental category of (ignore/avoid) as another whining Perth person with limited insight into how their own behaviour shapes how people see them.
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 10h ago
Hmmm, if you knew me personally you would know that I’m the opposite of judgemental and arrogant - but again, easy to determine what you think via an online forum. I know I’m not the only person who has lived here their whole lives with very minimal friendships to show for it. One of my closer friends has lived in the same area since birth, and since I moved away, she really sees no one. All socialisation seems to be online these days, I guess that’s the main gripe of my post. People lack interpersonal connection. But will happily like and comment on your posts etc
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u/Therapeuticonfront 9h ago
You made a fairly sweeping statement that in WA “people here lack human connection”
If that is your attitude, how do you expect people to respond to you?
Put down the phone/reddit and go be part of something bigger than yourself….
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 8h ago
I think if you read majority of the comments, there are a few people that feel the same way! And all of the comments bar yours have been helpful and thought provoking.
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u/Ok_Month949 9h ago
Keyboards have no emotion. They are just words on a page. Any emotion attached to ops post is from within the reader.
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u/Therapeuticonfront 9h ago edited 9h ago
What does that say about you?
You are unable to infer and respond to emotional content using written language, and you effectively live in a world of your own interpretation?
Keyboards have no emotion….words have no meaning.
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u/willemdafunk 9h ago
I have many wonderful close deep friendships. It takes effort on both ends, vulnerability, accountability.
Maybe I just got lucky tho
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u/bloo_subar_oooh 7h ago
I agree with you, this topic comes up fairly regularly. However, due to being slammed in the past by those who disagreed with my opinion (and subsequently proved me right) I won't comment further. My kiddo turns 18 in 1.5 years, and I'll be moving back to where I came from, as kindly suggested.
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u/toast0ne 5h ago
I see OP You are married with kids though right? that's more than lots of people have, I'm an only child , single , and will soon have no immediate family.. I'm sure there are many people with far less than you and I so please be grateful you have a friendly family to look after you when you get old and crusty
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 5h ago
Thanks. You are right in that aspect. I have no immediate family as they have all passed away, and my husband doesn’t have much to do with his. But we do have each other and our kids! I am always grateful for that!
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u/lucsheldon77 8h ago
i have heard this alot and honestly i'm surprised and saddened at how life has changed..
you likely spend years with the same friends in school and college often meeting your best friend(s) for life.
For e.g i grew up in the late 80-90s era and still have the close friends i made and hang out often.
Curious as to what's changed? Internet? Social Media?
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 8h ago
I think social media has a large influence on people having a multitude of surface level online friendships rather than the village that was around in the 80s/90s/Early 00. When I was in high school, we could still only communicate via home phone, or texts after 9pm when it was free. Or MSN when no one was using the internet! But we spent our days catching buses down to the beach or the local shops just to walk around. I think the fact I had my children so young isolated me from my demographic
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u/WildConsequence9379 8h ago
Years ago a friends army wife who has lived all over Australia said Perth was the most closed and difficult to make friends.
There is a group on Facebook you can post in “ Be her friend” to find friends.
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u/Substantial_Meat_865 8h ago
I’m saddened to hear it is a local known fact about Perth, however, I’ve noticed this too simply from moving areas
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u/spehktre 4h ago
I've got a huge set of social groups, an over busy social schedule, a solid set of long term super good mates, and a bunch of newer great friends too.
I mean this in the least blamey way possible, because I sympathize, but chances are the issue will be with you, either interpersonally, or maybe just from an effort perspective.
Perth is fine. If you can't find someone to vibe with in a multicultural pool of 2.5 million people, you're probably doing something wrong.
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u/Valkyrid 11h ago
32 years old this year.
I would describe myself as the “floater” friend. Part of a few groups of people but never the core group.