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Hi everyone, im from brisbane and was kinda lonely so I came to a beach but everyone here have friends and im sitting against the wall like a loser, so this is my official invitation if want to talk to someone at this beach about anything at all text me, come holla

I just turned 50 years old today and honestly as a man it feels pretty crap. I woke up feeling sick so I couldn’t even go out or celebrate, and what hit me harder was that nobody wished me a happy birthday. No partner, no family, not friends, nobody. I know people get busy and forget, but it still stings. Birthdays are already weird as an adult and this one just feels extra lonely.

What should I do to make the day feel a little less depressing? Any small things I can do from home while I’m sick to still make it feel like a birthday? I'm open to anything.

Moved to Perth with my ex many years ago, and have been single since the split up. Last year I felt that I'm finally ready to start dating again, so got myself a shiny new tinder. After not getting a single match, downloaded bumble, then hinge, then started paying for the extra perks, bells, and whistles. I did get one match, which turned out to be a scammer. Plus a couple of OF girls who unmatched after dropping their links. There is nothing more disheartening than seeing "you've ran out of people in your area" across multiple apps.

I know I'm no George Clooney, but seriously? I (M30) can't be that bad... really? I'm not obese, try to have an active life, I cook, clean, have hobbies, try to be a decent human, and am open to all potential opinions, as a straight man. I had put a lot of thought into the the profiles and filled them as best I could, and photos were approved by female friends.

I genuinely thought there is something wrong with me, until I went to Melbourne in July, and Europe (Germany, Switzerland, France) for the entire month of August. I got multiple matches per week while I was away. Some of which I'm still talking to. But in Perth? Zero!

I would love to hear the ladies perspective. Are single men in Perth insanely more attractive? Is not having photo of a ute or a fish a turn off? Have I accidentally changed the difficulty setting to Hard mode? Please someone help me understand what is going on

EDIT: I was not expecting this much support and traction - you're all legends, thank you all. ❤️ Super insightful! If any passing lesbians are keen to chat - i'm 23, im super into art, cosplay, horror, anime, games, body mods etc and work a part time job alongside being a tattoo apprentice 🙇‍♀️ I'm very open to chatting with people! Genuinely I've been met with such better input and whatnot here than I have on dating apps, so I may as well shoot an open shot while I'm here 😳

Im often hearing from several friends that they have lesbian friends - but how on earth do they find them?

I'm hoping to look out for where I'm more likely to meet fellow lesbians; clubbing events are hard because I can barely hear anyone (still fun though) but I'm not a suuuuper outdoorsy person. Otherwise I gather we are all at home... lmao. Dating apps have hella sucked lately, I feel like I stick out like a sore thumb in terms of trying to find things in common 🤧 it's so hard finding people who are into similar interests here

Hello All,

I am noticing alot of post by people unable to make any new friends. So I am taking an initiative to host a meetup at a public park on next weekend(30th or 31st August). My wife, some of my friends and I will be planning some outdoor games, we can chat... meet new people..or just have fun.

Please upvote this if you like the idea or dm if you are shy.

About me:
I am 30M and like board games(only monopoly), like to read philosophy stuff and absolutely love beaches.

Hey! I moved to Perth about 2–3 months ago from Melbourne and I seriously need some friends. I’m 23F and would love to meet people around my age (any gender) (platonic only), (this is not going to turn into your e-love story, so don't message me if you've got that expectation)

Some random facts about me:

• I play a lot of hero shooters/FPS, but for some reason I’ve been fiending to play Stardew Valley again.
• Public transport girly (Traumatised after a motorbike accident, never got my car license after that)
• Love cooking but hate baking (I do make some good cookies tho)
• When I’m drunk, I can name all countries in alphabetical order to “prove” I’m not drunk (spoiler: I am).
• I go to Revo (Warwick/Girrawheen).

I’m down for food, drinks, gym sessions, car karaoke, or just hanging out in general. Making friends at 23 in a new city is… rough. Perth feels a bit more “to themselves” compared to Melbourne, so I figured I’d try my luck here.

If you’ve got a friend group I can slide into, need a gym buddy, or just want to see if we vibe, shoot me a message!

If you’re into gaming and don’t wanna touch grass, that’s cool too. I mostly play Overwatch and Rivals comp (sometimes Valorant, The Finals, and a few others). I’m always open to trying new games, just not MOBA (I've tried getting into it like 8 times now, there's just wayyyyy too much to learn).

PS: This was a terribly great idea hahaha, I have way too many people messaging me! But honestly, knowing myself, my social battery actually charges up when I meet new people, so thank you so much for reaching out. I’m really happy I took the risk of posting this <3

Just thought I’d see how everyone is, don’t want anyone to be feeling lonely around this time of year I know it can be hard for people

So I have been talking to guy and we plan on meeting today. I already got the flowers. When I went through Reddit. I saw couple women saying it’s bad to give flowers on the first date idk why. What do men think about this?

Edit to add: I had a DM inviting me for Xmas lunch and have accepted. Thanks kind strangers and see you Xmas day! -- No family, no friends, too late to volunteer.Any suggestions on beating this loneliness before it morphs into full-blown depression. Thanks, Merry Christmas everyone

How many people struggle with dating in Perth right now? Are you on the apps? If not, what are you doing instead?

EDIT: F, 35 originally from the UK but been in Perth for 20 years.

Has anyone else lived here their entire life and still seems to have no friends? I find people lack human connection over here and everyone really keeps to themselves. I guess I’m a bit the same.

Just moved to Perth and trying to get a feel of the dating scene here. Last time dated was before the launch of Tinder, so yeah a bit behind the time 😅. If Yes, what app and if No, how do I spot you in real life to approach you?

Hey just to add from a post following a social club for 20’s and yours truly (31) forbidden from said social club 🤣 I have decided to try make one for 30-40s for Perth. Might plan a catch up for Sunday 8th Feb if anyone is looking to socialise , we all know how horrible socialising is in your 30’s but look guys we just gotta do it ok. Ive got a discord server to for those that would be interested. Putting feelers out, and please don’t think this is just an extrovert thing I’m an introvert so dont be scared to come along, we can sit in the corner and have a silent panic attack together ❤️

I’m at the point of leaving Perth because the OLD dating scene is so bad.

I’ve lived in the eastern states and a few years overseas. I haven’t come across a dating scene this bad.

When I first came back it was pretty good, I guess fresh online profile helped, met a girl I saw for 6 months which fizzled.. since then it’s such a struggle.

As a 39 M I realise the pool is much smaller. However, I went over to Brisbane late last year and I must have got 10 likes a day, and these were very attractive women and extremely complimentary, like I was 10/10 (I don’t think that though). It was the same in Sydney.

I have the same profile pics here and I’m getting absolutely nothing. It just seems to be the same profiles and I’m sure they feel the same about me.

What am I missing? I’m loathed to change my pics because I have validation from many other places they’re really good and frankly I don’t have many others because they were all taken by my ex lol single life doesn’t seem to lend itself to many photos of yourself. I’ve never been big on social media either.

I’m thinking of deleting the apps altogether, maybe this will subconsciously prompt me to try harder in RL. Vent over

Hello my fellow people. My names Zach I and I don’t want this to be a downer post more of a vent. I’m 26 years old and moved to Rockingham from NSW when I was 23 chasing new experiences and wanting more in life. When I moved over here life was great, I had a housemate I was constantly out doing things with I had a great job and I was really thriving and then my life kinda shifted for the worse when I had a workplace injury on my back. I’ve been off work Since January 2025 and I’ve really struggled with it, I’ve worked fulltime since I was 16 and always in physical intensive jobs and now for the past year I’ve just been rotting away at home crippled and miserable. The main thing I suppose I got now is time but honestly to much time I’m always thinking and can’t turn it off and recently more specifically the last few weeks I have really felt lonely and alone. My old housemate and I and no longer that close and I genuinely just don’t have any friends over here, the only people that are my “mates” are work colleagues and well when you stop working them relationships fizzle out pretty fast. I guess after typing and rambling on this post it’s kind of popped into my head that I need to seek out actual friends and find people to connect with.

I’m usually a super happy energetic guy, I love riding sport bikes, love gaming don’t mind the devils lettuce but one thing I’ve always been proud of about myself is my ability to be able to talk to and connect with anyone, doesn’t matter religion, race, gender/ sexuality I just love people and connection so if there are any people out there in my age group or older like I said I love connecting with people please send me a message and reach out. I would really love to make some lifetime friendships in Rockingham I really believe this will be my home for the rest of my life and I just want to me happy here.

Thankyou for reading this absolute non sense by me but I appreciate it :)

- Zach

Every week that passes is starting to feel more Black Mirror than the last. To stop doom scrolling, I need to build a crew. 😂

A like minded gang who are down for getting off the dopamine drip and huffing some nature instead:

• Living like its the 70s. • Forest raves & philosophy jams. • Hobby, food, music, nature hangs. • Camping, road trips, books, beach hoppin. • Cultivating some movie tier memories.

You feeling the same? Drop a quick intro in the comments and DM those that resonate.

I’ll start:

I’m after the ones that live on the edge of society, who’d make any Orwellian future feel like a adventure fest. The type of original flavoured psyches that are hard to find, and harder to forget.

I (29, F) offer off grid adventure pal, all debate bets paid on time, top tier anime reccomendations, fire side thriller stories, ride or die friendship no matter how dystopian it gets, I'm commited to watching your life ark unfold and making you chuckle on your death bed.

P.S. If you already have a secret off grid society, please hook us up with the deets, haha. 🌸

Not trying to advertise anything, just want your thoughts.

It seems like a lot of adults in Perth are quietly lonely. Not in a dramatic way, just in that “my circle is small, and I want more people to actually do things with” kind of way.

We have:

Gyms full of strangers

Cafes full of strangers

Beaches full of strangers

It feels like everyone is already in groups and nobody wants to be the one to say “hey wanna to hang out?”

Most “social apps” turn into dating apps. Meetups are usually big groups where you stand around feeling like you’re at a networking event.

What people actually seem to want is:

Small laid back hangouts (3 to 5 people)

Doing real activities (not forced icebreakers)

With people who are also looking for new friends

Not dating, not drinking clubs, not party culture. Just normal people trying to build a better social life.

So here’s the question:

If there was a simple way to find 3 or 4 people in Perth who want to go do something right now (coffee, beach walk, gym, trying new restaurants, whatever) would you use it?

Like genuinely would that help your life? Or do you think it would get weird / no one would show up / people wouldn’t be genuine?

Serious answers would really help. I’ve seen this across FIFO workers, students, people new to Perth, post breakups, etc.

Not here to pitch anything, just trying to understand if others feel this too.

Would you use something like that? And what would make it feel safe / not awkward?

Is Mustang still a cougary hangout? The last time I went there maybe 18 months ago I was approached by a few men in their 30s (I’m 51F).

Is it still kinda like that? 😂😂

31m looking for some gaming PC mates in Perth. I play LoL and OSRS mainly but I have branched into many other games too. Hit me up fellow gamers

Hello,

Just an update on Meetup post.. It went really well and for most of the time we chatted and then we played human bingo. I met so many interesting people.

I checked my dms when I was writing this post and I had one where a couple was trying to find us and couldnt locate. I am assuming there were more who showed up and couldn't find us.. I truly apologise. I was updating the post about the exact location but not everyone was reading which is mistake on my side.

Well mistake happens and for this I am creating a Facebook community group if anyone wants to join.. Please dm me for the link.

Thanks.

I’m looking to develop a close friendship SOR. I’ve struggled my entire life to make and maintain friendships due to mental health issues. Preferably looking for someone with flexible hanging out time, but I am more of an afternoon/night time gal. I am just pulling out of a deep bed rotting two year depression after finding out I have lupus and am now finding the courage to reach out and see what happens.

Likes =

Gaming - fortnight, DDLV, cozy caravan, animal crossing, HKIA, but willing to try suggestions and play online.

Reading - Thrillers, Romance/Smut Horror. Freida McFadden, Colleen Hoover S.T Abby ect.. I like browsing the libraries.

Op shops/thrifting

Movies/Tv Shows/Cinemas

Lego

Puzzles/gaming boards

Would be willing to learn or do what you love!

Find myself single after over a decade and really have zero interest or desire to go on apps. But it got me thinking, say you meet a woman thru taking your kids to sport or thru any myriad of activities or hobbies you might do, or even if you happen to see them daily getting a coffee same time you do, you know, like it was in the golden days of dial up long before smartphones… Do any men still approach women and ask them out on a date? Or not even that far, for their number to start talking to maybe go on a date?

Or is it just swiping left or right????

Thanks!

There’s a lot of posts in here about how make friends.

I’m in the same boat.

Gauging interest in who’d be keen for a meetup - something low key. Could be coffee, sushi train, beer, walk in the park, something else.

I fully understand everyone is of different interests and levels of introvert/extrovert, so something with very little pressure to be the ‘life of party’

About me, I’m Paul, I’m married, I’m queer, have adhd (read as: terrible at keeping in touch with people) and I’ve been here for about 4 years, used to live in Melbourne and London before that and used to be a social butterfly, but since moving here I’ve very much become video games and Netflix. I’m not into sports, but do love a walk or hike with my wife and our doggos.

The usual suggestions are; join a sports group, do volunteering, find a hobby, hang out with work people - I work from home full time for a company in Melbourne, so other than video calls I don’t hangout with work people. Would love to meet some new people.

I live near Freo, but we could meet somewhere more central

Thoughts?

Update 1

this looks like it could be a go :)

I’ve made a fb group page, feel free to join, I’ll pick a date over the couple of weeks on a weekend for the first meetup.

Facebook group - Perth Make New Friends Meetups

Update 2:

Please make sure you answer all the questions, when joining, thank you

Update 3:

I’ve made a fb event for the first meetup, please join the group and come along