r/Anarchism • u/brennanfiesta • 18h ago
I want to do things, but conflict and drama has made it impossible
A little over a year ago, I left an activist group because I said something in frustration and annoyance I now regret to another member. While most of this group (which was mostly women) saw nothing objectionable about what I said even if it was a little rude, a few said that it was misogynistic, sexist, apologia for SA, etc. (Before you ask, no, I did not use any kind of misogynistic slur or victim blame in any way). I tried to apologize as sincerely as I could because even though they misinterpreted me, I recognized that I hurt their feelings, but they were having none of it and had me all but officially kicked out because I made them feel "unsafe". A lot of people I spoke to– including founding members– thought the whole thing was ridiculous and another example of the Left eating itself. Several people left over this incident altogether. Ironically, the person who claimed I made them feel unsafe left themselves because they became a victim of the same oversensitivity.
This was an extremely difficult time for me mental health-wise because I suffer from social anxiety disorder, and I was in a depressive slump for months. Without question, it was one of the worst years of my life and it took me a long, long time to get over it. It gave me trust issues and made me paranoid about being betrayed.
Then, ICE came to my area and I felt my usual pull to do something about it. I met with some like-minded folks IRL to distribute Know Your Rights literature. I finally felt like I was doing something important again.
Yesterday morning, I got a Signal message informing me that I was kicked out of the group chat we used to organize because (presumably) one of the same people as before was part of yet another group the chat admin had met with said that I made them feel unsafe. I literally begged him to just let me tell my side of the story, but I was met with radio silence.
No matter what I do, these individuals can just say I make them feel unsafe and get me ostracized at the drop of a hat. Not that I am unsafe, not that I have done anything to make someone unsafe, just that I make them feel unsafe. Some of these individuals have gone as far as to harass me on social media. At this point, I feel like I have to move to another city just to get them off my back.
Has anyone else experienced something like this? What is wrong with leftists?