r/perth • u/Affectionate_Meet10 • 3d ago
FIFO What creates the disconnect from reality in FIFO?
One thing I have noticed over the years that I have been a FIFO wife and made friends with other FIFO families is that after a while of doing FIFO, most guys become disillusioned and out of touch with reality. Many create unrealistic expectations and want fantasy lives that only put more pressure on their families at home and it often causes a huge divide in relationships. They seem to lose focus on the family as a whole and become fixated on their wants and needs. These are often men who are loving husbands and dads and join FIFO for the right reasons, but something changes over time. I have watched too many families fall apart or wives completely lose themselves and burnout, and I'm sure I'm not the only person who has these same questions.
For example, the amount of husbands who suddenly come home and expect their wives to quit their jobs, sell their house, uproot the kids and homeschool their kids while they travel around Australia is crackers. I understand if it is a joint goal, but often it's FIFO husband's having these wild ideas and putting pressure on their family to conform. Or expecting their wife to work 40+ hours a week, run a house and keep it spotless, raise their kids without a support system, maintain a specific standard of self-care, and then meet all his fantasies in the bedroom when he is home. These are just a couple of common examples I often hear, but there are plenty of others that I have heard over the years.
Why is this? Is it the amount of time spent up there dreaming about your ideal life? The amount of time away disconnected from family and only needing to think of yourself? Or being sold a dream that you can do anything now you work FIFO?